Y.O.D.O. vs MyWishes
Y.O.D.O. vs MyWishes: which is right for you?
MyWishes is a UK end-of-life planning suite that helps you document funeral wishes, write goodbye letters, and record advance preferences. Y.O.D.O. is a private communication support service: it checks in on you while you are alive and releases sealed messages to chosen Recipients only after a passing has been verified.
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The short answer
MyWishes focuses on end-of-life documentation: funeral wishes, advance care plans, and letters you can store and share. Y.O.D.O. focuses on the in-between: scheduled Check-ins keep trusted people informed while you are alive, and sealed messages reach specific Recipients only after a passing has been verified. They serve different needs and can be used together.
Y.O.D.O. is best for
- Scheduled Check-ins while you are alive, with Delegates contacted if you go quiet.
- Sealed messages released only after a passing has been verified, to named Recipients.
- Care Pause for travel, hospital stays, or quiet weeks.
- Clear separation between presence (Delegates) and content (Recipients).
MyWishes is best for
- Structured templates for funeral wishes, advance care plans, and digital legacy notes.
- Goodbye letters and Future Messages stored within the platform.
- Established UK end-of-life planning provider with hospice partnerships.
Feature by feature
| Feature | Y.O.D.O. | MyWishes |
|---|---|---|
| Primary purpose | Ongoing communication support. Check-ins while alive, sealed messages after a verified passing. | End-of-life documentation: funeral wishes, advance care plans, goodbye letters. |
| Works while you are alive | Yes. Scheduled and Quick Check-ins, Care Pause, and Delegate contact if you go quiet. | Yes for editing your plans, but no active monitoring of whether you are OK. |
| Trusted Delegates contacted if you go quiet | Yes. Delegates may be contacted after a missed Check-in and your chosen buffer. | No equivalent monitoring role. |
| Sealed messages to specific Recipients | Yes. Each message is sealed and released only to its named Recipient after a verified passing. | Future Messages can be scheduled, but the model is documentation-led rather than verified-release. |
| Verification before release | Passing must be verified. A buffer period applies before sealed messages are released. | Sharing is largely user-directed during life. Post-death release relies on whoever you have nominated. |
| Funeral and advance care wishes | Not the focus. Y.O.D.O. does not replace a will, advance decision, or funeral plan. | Core strength. Detailed templates for funeral wishes and advance care planning. |
| Jurisdiction and regulation | UK and EEA. Companies House 15736034. ICO ZC015883. Data hosted in the EEA. | UK-based provider. |
| Cost | Paid subscription with a 14-day cardless trial. | Free core service, with paid features. |
Choose Y.O.D.O. if
You want someone to notice if you go quiet, you want sealed messages released only after a verified passing, and you want Delegates whose role is presence rather than access to your documents.
Choose MyWishes if
Your priority is documenting funeral wishes, advance care preferences, or writing structured goodbye letters with end-of-life planning tools.
Common questions
Operated by Y.O.D.O. Ltd, registered in England and Wales (15736034). ICO registered (ZC015883). Data hosted in the EEA. Live in the UK and EEA.
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